Mystery shoes

Tell us about your favorite pair of shoes, and where they’ve taken you.

I moved to the UK in August 2015. Landed myself in a job in December 2015, with a joining in Jan 2016. I had a couple of weeks to prepare and move to another city about 200 miles away. 

In those 2 weeks, I shopped for work. Dresses, shoes, etc. I bought myself a pair of block heels, black in colour with a belt that went around the ankle. I loved those shoes, although they weren’t my regular work shoes. I preserved them.

We lived in a rented house for about 8-9 months. Post that, we moved to another rental house. In the midst of all these moves, I had kept some extra luggage at a friend’s house. In this second rental house, I never saw that pair of shoes. I thought perhaps I packed them with the extra luggage stored at my friend’s.

We lived about a year in this second rental house before buying our own home. I finally got all the luggage at one place. I was eager to find my shoes back. And I didn’t.

I unpacked everything. I checked stuff in the garage and extra storage cupboards for about a year after moving into my home. But in vain.

Painfully, I accepted that I lost those shoes.

6 years passed.

Last week, my mum was sorting out some of my old stuff because I am in India and she wants me to clear unwanted things.

I am at my in-laws’ currently so she sent me a picture of these shoes to ask if I still needed them!!!

I can’t wait to go back to my mum’s next week and try them on after all these years!!?!!

A half drunk coffee

Can you share a positive example of where you’ve felt loved?

I was at my in-laws’ with my younger daughter and my husband had stayed the night at his sister’s with my older daughter.

The next evening we were reuniting. As I drove into the parking space outside the house, we saw my husband at the gate with an eye on the road. We assumed that he must be waiting for our younger daughter. He went straight to her door to get her out of the car who was sitting next to my mother in law. My mother in law commented on how eagerly he was waiting for the daughter.

He replied to her which I didn’t hear as I had gotten out of the car. He said, he was actually waiting for me with a cup of my favourite coffee that he had half drunk.

Live!

What is your mission?

My mission is to Live. Just live. Live every moment. With myself, my family, my children, my love, my friends. Just live.

To live, I may do things. I will need to work to earn, I will need a career for my ambitions, I will dream to give my children the best possible opportunity. I will do chores to run my household. I’ll give myself and my family some comforts. I’ll do things to survive but I won’t define that as living.

Above all, and beneath all, my mission is to Live. Live without regrets, live without hatred, live without jealousy. Live in full spirits. Live passionately. Live like a flowing river.

Just live!

You can be slow..

I was in the toilet with my daughter at the airport after we landed in India. She needed a wee and suddenly she realised she needed a potty too. Our family was waiting outside to receive us. I told my daughter that it’s ok, you can finish your potty and then we will go.


What she said next made my day and taught me a very good lesson.

She said, "Yeah, we can be slow. We don't have to be quick, we can choose to be slow"

It hit me hard. We constantly complain that time flies. But time is in our control. We can choose how fast or slow we want it to pass.

In the world of competition and race, it is so important to learn and teach our children to savour every moment, be conscious and aware in each moment, and really lead life slowly.

Quit or Not Quit?!


There is a lot of noise everywhere about inspiring people to never quit. “Successful people don’t quit” “Winners never quit, quitters never win”
Social media is always flooded with these motivational quotes. But how does it impact us? Have we given a thought about how we interpret it or how we must interpret it?
I believe such messages, when taken literally, can cause a lot of peer pressure, sometimes resulting in depression and self doubt.

Wisely quitting a path in time is a quality that is much less appreciated.
Timely exit from a relationship can save a lot of trauma and can save someone from ruining their life.
Sometimes if a path isn’t working, one must change it. The true interpretation lies in the fact that, never give up on your dreams or goals rather than on the path; you are allowed to change your path if your instincts say so.

Art is in finding a balance and using wisdom to quit. Wise quitting must be seen as a quality and must be appreciated.

Here’s to Wise Quitting👍

Tenerife – sea or mountain?

What is your favorite holiday? Why is it your favorite?

When asked if I am a sea person or a mountain person, I answer based on what I am feeling at the moment. Because I am both. Some days the sea calls me and on others, mountains.

Tenerife offers both. Cherry on top is the sky gazing activity offered in Tenerife.

We spent a week in Tenerife with an itinerary that was a perfect mix of chilling, beach, hiking, exploring, star gazing and enjoying local wines.

It has indeed been a perfect holiday for me!

How to complete the inner incompleteness….

The Complete Power, Bhagavad Gita by Jaya Row

Founder of Vedanta Vision, Mrs. Jaya Row is one of the world’s most influential speakers on Indian philosophy. Backed by her corporate experience and 40 years of research on Vedanta, she motivates her audiences to live successful and happy lives. Clarity, wit and zeal are the hallmarks of her presentation, which comes forth beautifully in her book, The Complete Power.

The Complete Power is a simple read that unravels the power of the oldest and the grandest spiritual powerhouse i.e., Bhagavad Gita. The book is not merely a translation, but it provides applications of the principles in very practical way. She cites examples from our daily lives, like work, family, shopping, etc. This makes the book very relatable.

She presents the concept of Bhagavad Gita through 7 gems quoting relevant shlokas. Each gem takes you through the principles about how to practice 3 yoga –  karma yoga, bhakti yoga and gyan yoga. She explains the enormous truth of why one should become desireless in a very logical manner – she proves it that actually not giving up desires brings you more pain. When we think of desires, we ask ourselves, why shouldn’t I get a new dress, why shouldn’t I use the air-con on hot days if I can afford it? She says, we definitely shouldn’t give that up, what we must give up is the attachment to those desires. She makes difficult concepts easy to comprehend.

The knowledge of Bhagavad Gita is not unknown but converting that knowledge into wisdom requires careful craftsmanship. Mrs. Row in her book serves excellent pointers to think about that prompts us to look at our lives more closely, to give conscious thought to our constantly thinking mind.

We are all very familiar with the below verse which is presented as Gem 5 in The Complete Power, but Mrs. Row has brought forth the depth of the concept in modest words.

Gem 5

“One who does what one ought to do without depending on the fruit of action is a sannyāsī, a yogī. Not one with agni (ideal) or action.”

The author explains that even if a person’s goal is of higher level i.e. of self-realization, there can be a tendency of being result-oriented. Or some level of pride. Further she says, and I quote, “If you do not have a goal, you will not act. If you think of the goal while acting your action will be faulty and you will not succeed.”

She literally prescribes what one must do in order to absorb the simple principles of Bhagavad Gita. She ends the book with defining the Happiness Quotient and illustrating daily life scenarios for us to comprehend it.

As she describes in the introduction of the book, The Complete Power is not an exhaustive explanation of the wealth of knowledge contained in the Gita, but it surely is a very good start point if one starts becoming aware of one’s mind using the right trigger points illustrated in the book.

Arise, Awake.

Stop not till the Goal is reached.

Written by: Chahna D

Edited by: Milauni T

Gems from The Complete Power

Gem 1

I bestow yoga (spiritual enlightenment) and ksema (material success) to those persons who worship me with no other thought, to those always seeking Union.

Gem 2

O Arjuna, how has this despondency come over you in a crisis? It is un-Aryan, leading to neither heaven nor fame.

Gem 3

Having created humankind in the beginning along with yagna (sacrifice), Prajapati (the Creator) said, “By this may you prosper, let this be the Kamadhenu (wish-fulfilling cow) of your desires.

Gem 4

Fight, surrendering all actions to Me, focussing thoughts on the Self, without expectation, my-ness or frenzy.

Gem 5

One who does what one ought to do without depending on the fruit of action is a sannyasi, a yogi; not one without agni (ideal) or action.

Gem 6

Having totally abandoned all dharmas (attributes), take refuge in Me alone. Do not grieve; I will release you from all sins.

Gem 7

As the ocean which filled from all sides with waters entering it, remains still, so one in whom all objects of desire enter obtains peace, not the desirer of desires.