Walk in the Woods

Destination: Self!ย 

If you have been following my blog, youโ€™d know that it started as an excursion experience sharing blog. I would pick a trail from Surrey or Hampshire council website and would set off. However, over time it evolved, and I started sharing experiences from other aspects of life. Hiking experience changed over the last few years for me after I had my child. It had been a while since I had been in the woods on my own, when I received news from internal Philips communication channel that Philips had joined hands with Chiltern Charity Run to support a mental health charity called Mind.

Mental health is something that has been my focus for the last couple of years. I have learned to recognise that mental health needs as much conscious attention as we pay to our physical health. Both are interlinked in some way but they both need to be addressed individually to achieve an overall balanced fitness. As I develop deeper understanding, I realise there are several layers to mental health and that there are lots of taboos attached too. We take our mental fitness too much for granted and tend to turn a blind eye subconsciously.

Chiltern charity event was the perfect amalgamation of my evergreen hobby and my recently revealed truth. I grabbed the opportunity and chose for the 10k run (or walk) in an endeavour to find peace amongst the woods as well as support the cause for my belief.

Two of my lovely friends decided to join me in this adventure who were as unsure as me if weโ€™d make it. Not worrying about the result, the trio embarked upon the journey catching up after a long time. We talked about our work, fitness, work life balance, challenges and touched upon mental health aspect of our lives. One of the girls is a practicing GP who shared some very interesting but eye-opening insights into mental wellbeing.

The hike was amid woods close to Henley on Thames. Henley is a beautiful town on the river Thames in Oxfordshire. The weather was kind to us on the day โ€“ not too hot, nor too cold. The calmness of woods began having an impact on us soon after we started. We took a break at about 4.7kms for about 10 mins and had some snacks. That break helped me cross the line of being too conscious about my walk and being able to surrender myself to nature.

Soon after we resumed, I left my friends behind, not on purpose, just the terrain and a bit of consistent speed. I crossed a few people who were ahead of me and shortly I found myself alone in the walk. That put me in the space where I could connect with myself through nature. I kept pausing every so often to take in the scenery and to allow myself to absorb into the moment. Without realising, the charityโ€™s purpose of mental health was being fulfilled. My mind was unwinding, and lifeโ€™s purpose was becoming clearer.

The final patch of the walk, approximately last 3 kms, were complete wonderous for me. There was no one I could see in front of me or behind me. There was open ground on side and dense woods on the other. This patch had concrete road to walk on, unlike the rest of the hike which was mostly off-road and woody. During this time, there was one moment where I could simply let go of everything, including myself and be totally tuned in with the universe.

As I came nearer to the final turn, crossing which I would be back into real world, I turned around and kissed the woods good-bye, making a promise to myself to visit them soon.

I thank Chiltern Charity and Philips for giving me this excellent opportunity and to enable me to disconnect.

Written by: Chahna D

Edited by: Milauni T

DO YOU GET 24 HOURS EVERY DAY?

Long time ago, a friend of mine asked me, if I also get 24 hours a day like everyone else?

There has been something going on in my head since a few days but have not been able to put a finger to it. Driving this morning to work, a thought triggered, and it took me back to the moment, few years ago, when my friend was amazed with how much I can do in 24 hours.

I was thinking about how will I manage if get into a role that has more responsibilities than I have now? Will I be able to do justice to my family in terms of my time and responsibilities? Will I be able to do justice to myself? Will it affect my physical and mental health? All these questions led to me to think that, hey, my life has changed a lot in the past few years, but I still have never compromised on things I like to do. Writing, for example! Agreed, I have had to put my interests away for a bit now and then, but I have always managed to find my way back. How?

This โ€œHow?โ€ led me to understand about intrinsic motivation and extrinsic motivation. Extrinsic motivation is that you do things only when you have to or are driven by external motivator. For example, going to yoga class because your friend goes โ€“ which is fine โ€“ question is what do you do when your friend skips the class? Do you skip as well? Or do you work hard because you want to do better than your colleague and seize that promotion?

Extrinsically motivated individuals will always need a reason to do something. But what happens when that external motivator is taken away? They lose purpose. Intrinsically motivated individuals, on the other hand, do not need any external driver to do something. They find time for what they think is important for them. They have a force within them that drives them.

Internally motivated people do things they enjoy for themselves. Yes, they enjoy company, but at the same time, being a loner doesnโ€™t scare them. They constantly find ways to pursue their interests no matter the odds.

So, letโ€™s take this opportunity to introspect and try to understand ourselves better. In MBA, I had learned about Stephen Coveyโ€™s time management matrix which I would like to modify a bit for us here. The more we try to focus on Quadrant 4, we will feel more peaceful and happier in life. We generally tend to get caught up in activities within quadrants 1 to 3 and always push behind the activities in quadrant 4.

The paramount question is how to focus on quadrant 4 when we have so much going on? Job, kids, families, commitments, itโ€™s maddening. So, here I have tried to put down some pointers that might help you.

  1. List the activities in your daily routine that fall under quadrants 1 to 3
  2. How much of your time do they take away?
  3. Do these activities require to be done by you? Can anyone else do it?
  4. Which activities drain you physically? Can you get domestic help to do it?
  5. Which activities drain you mentally? Is there anyway you can share those activities?
  6. Which activities can be pre-planned? Like, can you batch cook? Or can you plan your social commitments?
  7. Are there any activities that can be done while they are still manageable? For e.g., laundry. I find doing laundry more regularly actually makes it manageable and less effort consuming.
  8. Which are the activities that you can automate? For e.g., setting a direct debit for your regular bills, having a dishwasher, or having a multicooker.
  9. Which are the activities that you can do away with sometimes? Like, for me, it is ok if my house is messy, it must be clean though. But I can be at peace if there are toys lying around that are not in my way. Identify such activities and learn to give them a pass sometimes.

Basically, try to minimise and plan the activities in quadrant 1 to 3. This will allow you to have more time on your hands to focus on the activities in quadrant 4. The more you do it, the more organised you will become. The more organised you are, the more time you will have to pursue your Ikigai!


Yes, all of us get 24 hours and working towards your Ikigai for a few of those hours/minutes- makes this world a better place for you!


Written by: Chahna D

Edited by: Milauni T

Treat Myself day

Coughing all night, waking up zillion times, I had a broken sleep and sore throat when I woke up. Yet it is all on you how you see it or carry it.

I still woke up in delightful spirits. It is truly said when you have had dark / rough times, it gives you a different aura. Very silly analogy to my morning but hey it is my morning..! So I decided to do something special. Something for me that I would love and carry on the good spirits through out the day despite the sore throat.

I put on my favourite jumper, took my travel mug (empty), set the right kinda songs for the mood and drove off (after tending to my sore throat). To Starbucks..!!! I got myself my special Toffee Nut Latte made perfectly. Songs on full volume and I singing along in loud, harsh voice..

Empty wet roads in the festive times, songs that touch your heart in the right way and warm coffee let the thoughts trail and I named today as “Treat Myself” day!

SO, what are you treating yourself with??

Everyone Plays their Roles…

No one is really yours

Everyone is just playing their roles

If you think, they are yours

Believe me, my friend, youโ€™re wrong

 

There are moments of light

When you feel bright

Your hope rises, and dreams shine

If you think, they are yours

Believe me, my friend, youโ€™re wrong

 

When you love, they love you back

When you respect, they respect you back

But in moment of truth, they hold back

Then you realise, the square one is back

 

Then you realise, youโ€™re all alone

Everyone is just playing their role